As humans we have laid out what is acceptable for all humans to have, like how humans should live, what human, in general, deserve and what are their rights. In a similar way, every human has a sense of entitlement, i.e. he believes for himself what he deserves.
A person’s sense of entitlement is often based on his self-esteem. If he values himself and has a high self-esteem he’s likely to believe he deserves a lot, while, if he has a low self-esteem then he will surely feel he doesn’t deserve much. Basing one’s sense of entitlement around one’s self-esteem is not a right thing to do because a person’s self-esteem is mostly built on how the society views this person as.
If a person fits into the criteria of what society thinks is good looking or intelligent then he might have a high self-esteem, he would have a high sense of entitlement and also, society will think higher of him. A good looking person is likely to believe he has a higher chance of having an attractive life partner while an intelligent person believes he will certainly have a job that pays a big amount. Such people often lead to have a sense of entitlement that is based on false beliefs.
A person who doesn’t fall into the criteria set by society then he might have a poor self-esteem and a poor sense of entitlement. A poor sense of entitlement is going to make these people unhappy, lead them down the path of difficulties in every aspect of life making things even worse than before they are. One must not let these believes stop him from living a good life. Everyone should be able to create his own reality.
There are two extremes that we often see among people. There is a kind that gives away all their rights and submits unhealthily to their partner, hardships or their whole life. Their self-esteem might be broken to an extent that it feels impossible for them to repair it. It becomes difficult for them to change their perspective about life and create their own reality.
There are people who are made to believe that they deserve a lot but the things that happen to them are far from what are made to believe in. The hardships make them bitter because they feel they are entitled to a much better life. A person might leave a job, while he doesn’t have another source of income, because it’s doesn’t pay well and he deserve more than that but he shouldn’t do that at the expense of his family.
Our sense of entitlement must be kept in check. We should be careful to not let our sense of entitlement cloud our thinking.
Keywords: sense of entitlement, entitlement, self-esteem, society, self improvement.
