Mostly people deem silence better than an argument. They think it will avoid the trouble that they might face in an argument. In times of misunderstanding or arguments, some people express what they feel or say what they want to say but some choose to stay silent. The result is often not good when one of the parties, in a relationship, chooses to stay silent. Bottling up emotions inside is not a good choice, anyway.
This bottling up and silence acts as a poison for you and your partner. Shutting down and not cooperating to deal with your partner and problems in a meaningful way can cause a big trouble. This can result in a breakup. Silence will hamper the relationship bonds and has the ability to eat up the insides of both the people involved in relationship.
Many couples go for marriage counseling and claim they don’t even argue then why is their relationship falling apart. “No argument” is a red flag for a relationship because if you never disagree then either you don’t open up or you are not being honest with your relationship.
If you haven’t a debate with your partner in quite some time then either there is lack of communication or communication opportunities, or your relationship is suffering from silence. If you are not having any conversations anymore, because of lack of time or any other reason, this is going to disconnect you or maybe you already are going through this disconnection process. This silence could be initiated by your partner to avoid disagreement or negative opinions or maybe you two are no longer in habit to talk.
A conversation, argument or even a heated argument tell of a living relationship. It tells that both the people want this relationship and are working on getting their piece of information to the other end. This means they care for this relationship or other person and strive to clear this misunderstanding. They are trying. While, in a relationship suffering from silence, either people have given up, or they already don’t care anymore. There would be lots of assumption or guessing since the information is not available from the other end.
It’s not hard to cure a relationship suffering from silence. It just needs a start. Start talking. Someone has to take first step. If you have realized the problem then you should start rather than waiting for the other person. Try to dig out why did you two shutdown and work on it. You can also seek counseling or a third party to mediate among you people, if you think the relationship is beyond the stage of curing it on your own.
Keywords: silence, poison, relationship, conversation, communication, argument
