Everyone gets angry. It’s an emotion that can be observed even in children. People lose their cool, their composure; they blow off and say things that they later regret. Children manifest their anger naturally and they observe the reaction of their actions. They see how their behavior impacts those around them, how their parents respond to a certain kind of behaviour and learn it to their benefit.
Anger is a strong emotion. Many people find it challenging to deal with these strong feelings and the person who is angry. Angry feelings can often stem from a feeling of injustice, frustration, abuse, mistrust, and jealousy, being neglected, ignored or victimized. These feelings could be based on a real or imagined basis. Angry people tend to not fit in the crowd. They are opposed to what others do and think like. Some of them go to the extremes to avoid participation.
Oftentimes people express their anger in a way that serves no purpose. Some people just explode every time they are faced with an argument, problem, or disturbance, while, some people hold it inside like a smolder. Some people are ready to strike any time as if waiting for the time while others get closed within themselves. One might be a boss who fumes everything something goes wrong in his office and the other a wife who goes quiet when angry with her husband. They both are expressing their anger, one yelling and the other cutting off totally but this is not resolving the issue.
Some people are just too timid or lack in courage to express their anger. There might be an employee who works hard but needs a raise. He might be afraid of his strict boss’ temperament and never voice his thoughts and keep bottling them up inside building them into anger.
Gently expressing our feelings is healthier than holding it inside or shouting at someone. If there’s someone who is making you angry, just anyone, go to that person and tell him what’s bothering you. Tell them gently, everything that you imagined to tell them. If we calmly assert ourselves and stand up for ourselves amazing things can happen. Such people need to build some courage for that.
If your anger is whirling out of control then you must pay attention to this. This will get you in trouble because you might be hurting or misbehaving with people. This will make people hate you, avoid you and you might end up alone. If you seem to fail at working on your anger, attend anger management workshops or seek help from a professional.
Whether you are the one who blows the roof off while being angry or the one who bottles it up inside, don’t let anger become your boss. Take control of it.
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